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Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.
1st Big Lesson From The Study
* social connections are really good for our health and happiness
* loneliness kills; the experience of loneliness turns out to be toxic to humans
* people who are more connected to family, friends, community are happier, physically healthier, and they live longer than people who are less connected
* people who are more isolated than they want to be from others find that they are less happy, their health declines early in midlife, their brain function declines sooner, and they live shorter lives than people who are not lonely
2nd Big Lesson From The Study
* it’s not just the number of friends you have
* it’s not about whether or not you’re in a committed relationship
* it’s all about the quality of your close relationships with others
* high-conflict relationships = very bad for our health (ex. divorce)
* the people who were most satisfied in their relationships at age 50 were the healthiest at age 80
3rd Big Lesson From The Study
* good relationships don’t just protect our bodies, they protect our brains
* the people who are in relationships where they really feel they CAN count on the other person in times of need, those peoples memories stay sharper longer
* the people who are in relationships where they really feel they CAN’T count on the other person in times of need, those are the people who experience earlier memory decline
* close relationships don’t have to be smooth all the time (ex. arguments), the main thing that matters is if they could really count on each other when the going got tough
Conclusion
* Good relationships keep us happier and healthier. Period.
* people want a quick-fix for health and happiness
* the truth is that relationships are lifelong and not a quick fix
* relationships are hard and lasts a lifetime to maintain, it never ends
* relationships take energy, attention, time
* but things that have a huge payoff should never come easy & fast
* money can’t buy good relationships
* survey: many of the men when they were starting out as young adults really believed that wealth, fame, and high achievement were what they needed to go after to have a good life. But over and over, over the 75 years of the study, the study has shown that the people who fared the best were the people who leaned in to relationships with family, friends, community.
“The good life is built with good relationships.” - Mark Twain
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